Интервью Oprah Winfrey на английском языке с субтитрами

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0:30Aren't you all the luckiest people in the world?
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0:36Hi Amanda.
0:37>> Hi Oprah.
0:38[LAUGH].
0:40>> I can't believe I just said that [LAUGH].
0:43So we have been so excited and eagerly anticipating this day.
0:49This campus has been buzzing since the announce, announcement
0:52was made last week that you'd be coming here.
0:54And I received.
0:55>> Thanks for the buzz.
0:57I'm so glad you know I still have buzz.
1:00So good.
1:02>> I received a lot of support and advice from my
1:04friends and that was really great and I just wanted to
1:07say I think the best advice I've heard was don't worry
1:10Amanda, if you mess up, Oprah can just interview herself [LAUGH].
1:14>> [LAUGH] So, if I falter, feel free to
1:16ask yourself some questions, and we'll, and we'll be good.
1:19[LAUGH] But to get things started, I want, I
1:22thought we'd frame today's talk with framing three sections with
1:27quotes of yours that you shared after wrapping up your
1:3025th season and final season of the Oprah Winfrey Show.
1:34And I thought some of these quotes, I mean you share so much wisdom but, these these
1:40really spoke to me, and thought would be a great way to frame our discussion.
1:45>> Okay.
1:45>> So this first one that I will read for everyone
1:48and for you so you don't have to strain your neck
1:51is you have to know what sparks the light in you
1:55so that you, in your own way, can illuminate the world.
1:59So I wanted to take this time to talk
2:00about your early career and how you discovered your calling.
2:04So lets go back to when you were college age.
2:07Did you know that you wanted to get into TV and media specifically?
2:13>> No I did not.
2:14I thought that I was going to be a teacher.
2:19I was in my Sophomore class at Tennessee State University.
2:23I'd already been working in radio since I was 16 and my
2:28I remember I was in Mr. Cox's drawing class for theatre.
2:35And I was terrible drawer.
2:36He said, I couldn't draw a straight line with a ruler.
2:38[LAUGH] And and I got a call in that class, from a guy at the local
2:41station CBS, and he have been calling me several times when I was working in radio.
2:45So I started working in radio at 16, and one
2:50of them is fire prevention contest, another one story.
2:56And so when I went back to the station to pick my
2:58prize, some guy said, would you like to hear your voice on tape.
3:02I said sure and I started reading this copy on tape.
3:07They called everybody in the building, said here this kid read.
3:10I was 16 they hired me in radio.
3:12So I was in radio at 16.
3:14And so I started getting calls about my freshman year to come into television.
3:21I had never thought about it.
3:23And still was living at home, and couldn't
3:26figure out how I'd manage those, I had biology
3:29at 1 o'clock, and so I couldn't figure out how I would be able to manage my schedule.
3:34[COUGH] And Mr. Cox said to me, the one same, same
3:37professor said you can't draw a straight line with a ruler.
3:42He said, I came back from, from taking this phone call and
3:47he said who was that I said there's this guy at CBS
3:52he keeps calling me, he wants me to interview for a job,
3:57and Mr. Cox said, that is why you go to school fool.
4:02[LAUGHING] So that CBS can call you.
4:04[LAUGH] That is why you are in school.
4:06So I, he said you, you leave now and go call him back.
4:09And, and, I did.
4:11And I was hired in television not knowing anything about it.
4:14>> Mm-hm.
4:17>> Having in mind Barbera Walters but thinking.
4:19Oh, okay I can do that.
4:21Not knowing how to write or film or anything.
4:23>> Mm-hm.
4:24>> And I think it was because it was the, it was the times and I literally had
4:29somebody who was willing to work with me that I, that I managed to, to find my way.
4:35But I had to find my way, because, the reporting
4:38never really fit me, and what did work for me.
4:42I'm this old, I'm so old that when I
4:45started that it was the year of live action cam.
4:48[COUGH] And so, it was like video cameras live, and so, the news stations would do
4:55a live, a live shot they would throw
4:57to somebody live even if nothing was going on.
5:01>> Right.
5:01>> Just so they could say live action cam.
5:02And what I found was I wasn't so good at the writing part but if
5:06I was just standing up and talking about what had just happened it was really good.
5:12And then I started to feel, so I started
5:15at 19 working in television, became an anchor immediately afterwards.
5:21My father still had an 11 o'clock curfew.
5:23Can you believe such a thing?
5:25[LAUGH] That I am, that I am
5:28the 10 o'clock anchor [LAUGH] in Nashville Tennessee.
5:34I am the woman on the newscast.
5:36[LAUGH] Reading the news, and my father would say be home by 11.
5:40[LAUGH] And I'd say, dad, the news is on at ten,
5:43he goes and it's off at 10:30 so be home by 11.
5:47[LAUGH] So I, I, I had a very strict Gracier father.
5:49So, anyway, I, I could feel inside myself, that reporting was
5:55not the right thing for me even though I was happy to have the job.
6:00>> Right.
6:01>> I got an offer to go to Atlanta.
6:02I was making $10,000 a year in 1971, but still
6:06in college, so I was thinking I was doing pretty good.
6:09>> Yeah.
6:10>> I got an offer to go to Atlanta for $40,000 which I thought.
6:14It's over.
6:15[LAUGH] I'm gonna make $40,000.
6:19And my boss at the time said to me you do not know what you don't know.
6:24>> Mm-hm.
6:24>> And you need to stay here until you can learn to
6:27write better until you can can perfect your craft as, as a journalist.
6:33And so I, I he said we can't give you 40, but we can give you 12.
6:38So [LAUGH] so I stayed and you know the reason why I stayed is cuz I could
6:40feel inside myself that even though the 40 was
6:41alluring at the time, that he was absolutely right.
6:47So to make a long story short, cuz I'd be
6:50here all day just talking about how it all came about.
6:54I started listening, to what felt like the truth for me.
6:59>> Mm-hm.
7:00>> A couple of years later I moved to Baltimore.
7:03I could feel that as a reporter, and by this time, 22, I'm making 22,000.
7:09I met my best friend Gale there who said oh my
7:11god, can you imagine when your thirty and your making 30,000.
7:15[LAUGH] And then you're 40 and then it's 40,000.
7:18[LAUGH] We actually had that conversation in the bathroom.
7:26So this is I started to feel that reporting wasn't for me.
7:33But I had my father, I had my friends.
7:35Everybody was saying, oh my God, you're, you're an anchorwoman, you're on TV.
7:38I mean, you can't give up that job.
7:40>> Right.
7:40>> And when I was, by the time I was
7:42making 25, my father goes, you just hit the jackpot.
7:45You not gonna make no more money than that.
7:46That's just it.
7:47So I was torn between what the world was saying
7:49to me, and what I felt to be the truth for
7:55myself.
7:55It felt like an unnatural act for me reporting, although
8:00I knew that to a lot of people, it was glamorous.
8:02And, I started to just inside myself think what, what
8:06do I really wanna do, what I really wanna do.
8:09And I will say this.
8:10Knowing what you don't want to do is the best
8:14possible place to be if you don't know what to do.
8:16Because knowing what you don't want to do leads you to
8:19figure out what it is that you really do wanna do.
8:21>> Okay.
8:21So you discovered talk then, right?
8:25Around that time?
8:25>> I didn't discover talk.
8:26I was being, I got demoted.
8:27>> God.
8:28>> They wanted to fire me but I was, I was under contract.
8:33They didn't wanna give up the 25,000 so they were
8:35trying to keep me on to the end of the year.
8:38So they put me on the, this is how life works, [CROSSTALK]
8:42they put me on a talk show to try and avoid having
8:45to pay me the contract out and the moment I sat on
8:49the talk show interviewing the Carvel ice cream man and his multiple flavors.
8:55[LAUGH] I knew that I had found home for myself.
8:59Because when I was a news reporter, it was so unnatural for me, I, you know, to cover
9:05somebody's tragedies and difficulties and then to not to have feel anything for it.
9:11And I would go back after a fire.
9:13>> Mm-hm.
9:13>> And I would take the blankets and then I would get
9:15a note from my boss saying, what the hell are you doing?
9:18>> Right.
9:19>> You're just supposed to report on it.
9:20>> Can't be that empathetic.
9:21>> Can, cannot be that empathetic.
9:22And it felt unnatural for me.
9:23So if I were to put it in business terms, if it were were to leave you with a
9:30message, that the truth is I have from the very beginning listened to my instinct.
9:37All of my best decisions in life have come because I was
9:43attuned to what really felt like the next right move for me.
9:49And so, it didn't feel right.
9:52I knew that I wouldn't be there forever.
9:54I never even learned the street in Baltimore, because I thought I was there
9:57longer than I thought, I was there eight years I should've learned the streets.
10:01[CROSSTALK] I kept saying to myself I'm not gonna be here long, I'm not
10:04gonna be here, I'm not gonna be here so I'm not gonna learn the street.
10:06So when I got the call to come to Chicago.
10:08>> Mm-hm.
10:10>> After you know starting with a, with a coanchor and, and working in
10:14talk, for several years, I knew that it was the right thing to do.
10:19And I knew that if I didn't even if I, didn't succeed cuz
10:22at the time, there was a, there was a guy named Phil Donahue.
10:26>> Yeah.
10:26>> Who was the king of talk.
10:27>> Mm-hm.
10:28And was on in Chicago, and every single person,
10:32except my best friend Gale, said you are gonna fail.
10:36Every single person, [INAUDIBLE] my bosses by this time thought I was
10:39terrific, and said, you're gonna, you're, you're waking into a land mine.
10:44You're gonna fail.
10:45You're gonna fail.
10:47Chicago's a racist city.
10:48You're black you're not gonna make it.
10:49Everything to, to keep me same.
10:51Then they offered me a car and apartment and all this stuff, and I said no.
10:56If I fail, then I will find out what is the next thing for me.
11:00>> Right.
11:00>> What is the next true thing for me.
11:01>> It felt right to you, so you went for it.
11:04>> Cuz it felt like this is now the move I need to make.
11:08And I was not one of those people you
11:09know, all of my the people who worked with me
11:11in the news, they would have their taps and they'd
11:13have their stories, and they'd have you know resume's ready.
11:17I didn't have any of that, cuz I knew that the time would come.
11:20>> Mm-hm.
11:20>> Where I would, where what I needed would show up for me.
11:23>> Okay.
11:23>> And when that showed up, I was ready.
11:25Because my definition of luck, is
11:27preparation meeting the moment of opportunity.
11:32>> Right.
11:32>> And I was prepared to be able to step into that, that, that
11:36world of talk in a way that I, I knew I could do it.
11:40>> Great.
11:41So, often in your career I'm sure you were a minority.
11:45Perhaps as the only woman.
11:47The only black person, the only person from a poor family.
11:52Did this pr, affect you on your professional path?
11:55And how did you navigate situations in which you might have felt more alone?
11:59>> Hm.
11:59>> And now how did that impact how you lead and
12:01how you might help people who may be feeling that same thing?
12:08>> Okay, that's a lot of questions.
12:09[LAUGH].
12:10>> I'm sorry, all right let's let's-.
12:11>> Let me put my glasses on.
12:12[LAUGH].
12:14>> I figured I had you here, I was gonna, I was gonna ask as much as I can.
12:19>> Oh, Amanda went deep on me for a minute there.
12:22Whoa.
12:23Back up sister girl, c'mon, back up.
12:25[LAUGH] So first one is.
12:27>> So how did you navigate in which you would have felt more-
12:31>> Always the only, only woman walk in the room-
12:35>> Mm-hm.
12:36>> Still and there is a room full of white men, usually older thrills me.
12:43Just thrills me.
12:44[LAUGHING] I just, I just love it.
12:47[LAUGHING] Usually the only black person in the room.
12:53Also, never really concerned me because I, I don't look at people through color.
12:57I didn't get to be where I am by, and,
12:59who I am, by looking at the color of people's skin.
13:03I really, literally, took Martin Luther King at his word.
13:07and, understand that the content of a person's character,
13:11and, refuse to let anybody else do that to me.
13:15So, I love it, just love it.
13:16And there's a wonderful phrase by Maya Angelou, from a poem that she wrote called
13:23To Our Grandmothers, that she says, when I come as one but I stand as 10,000.
13:30[COUGH] So when I walk into a room and
13:32particularly before I have something really challenging to do
13:36or I'm gonna be in a circumstance where I
13:39feel I'm going to be you know, against some difficulties.
13:43I would literally sit, and I would call on the 10,000.
13:47>> Mm-hm.
13:47>> I would call on back to the ancestors,I would call on
13:51those people who come before me, call on those women who forged
13:55a path that I might be able to sit in the room
13:58with all of those white men, and I love it so much.
14:02[LAUGH] I, I call on, I call on that.
14:03>> Right.
14:03>> Because I know that my being where I am, and first of all, being who I am and
14:10where I am didn't come just out of myself that
14:14I come from a heritage and so I own that.
14:17>> Mm-hm.
14:18>> And I step into that room not just as
14:20myself but I bring all of that, that, energy with me.
14:24So it has never been an issue for me except when
14:27I was, I think, 23, still working in, still working in Baltimore.
14:33>> Mm-hm.
14:33>> I'd gone to my boss and said that the guy who was working with me, co, co,
14:39my cohost on the People Are Talking show, was making more money than I.
14:45And we were, we were cohosts.
14:47So I went to my boss and I said, this was in 1970, I was older than
14:5423, this was 1979, 80, and I said I, I just would like to-.
15:00You know how intimidating it is to go to the boss in the first place.
15:03[INAUDIBLE] But I'm gonna go, and I'm gonna stand up for myself.
15:06[LAUGH] And, I said, Richard's making more money than I am, and I,
15:09and I, and I don't think that's fair because we're doing the same job.
15:12We sit in the same show.
15:13We do the same.
15:14And, my general manager said, why, why should you make as much money as he?
15:20And I said, cuz we're doing the same job.
15:22And he said but he has children.
15:27[LAUGH] Do you have children?
15:28And I said no.
15:30He said, well he has to pay for college educations.
15:32So he has, he owns his own home.
15:33Do you own your home?
15:35I said no.
15:36He said, he has a mortgage to pay.
15:40He has insurance, he has do you have that?
15:42No.
15:42So, tell me, why, why do you need the same amount of money?
15:46And I said, thank you for your time.
15:49And I left.
15:50I left.
15:51I didn't complain about it.
15:53I didn't file a, a, a, a suit about it.
15:56I knew, that in that moment, it was time for me to go, and that I started the
16:01process for myself, of preparing myself for, you will not be here long.
16:07You are not gonna be able to get what you need.
16:09I had a boss at the time who was African American, and had just been
16:15for the first time, made an assistant news director, and was drunk with power.
16:22Drunk with power, and felt it his, I think, I don't know, I think
16:27he woke up in the morning thinking of things he could do to harass me.
16:31I decided not to file a suit against it, cuz I knew, at the time, I would lose.
16:37>> Right.
16:38>> That no good would come of it, that I would be blackballed in television, that
16:43it would turn into a major thing, and I knew, I didn't have long to stay there.
16:48I had a vision for what the future was, even though I couldn't place
16:53exactly where my future would be, I knew who held the future.
16:58Cuz I am really guided by a force that's bigger than myself.
17:02I know that my being here on the planet is not just of my own being.
17:05>> So you used that as momentum to just leave, cut your losses and go.
17:08>> No, I just [INAUDIBLE] and I filed it away.
17:10>> [CROSSTALK] Yeah.
17:11>> There will come a time.
17:11>> [LAUGH] Huh, it's gonna come back.
17:13Yeah, you were right.
17:14I think you were right.
17:15>> When I will be sitting in the same room.
17:17And it happened, like, in the late 90s.
17:19I had the Oprah show and I ran into that guy.
17:21Lord, Jesus, thank you.
17:23[LAUGH] [LAUGH] Oh my god.
17:29Oh, one of the sweetest moments I've ever happened.
17:31[LAUGH] Oh, go ahead.
17:34>> Okay.
17:35[LAUGH] Here we go.
17:36So, right now, as we sit here, we're
17:39about five miles from Facebook and Sheryl Sandberg.
17:42And last year, she published the book Lean In.
17:44And it's gotten incredible traction.
17:47It had some, you know, criticism as well.
17:50And I was wondering if you were to write a book on women in careers.
17:53What would your title be?
17:55>> Mine would be, actually.
17:57Mine wouldn't be lean in.
18:00It would be, step up and into yourself, because, this is the truth.
18:06There is no real doing in the world, without being first.
18:13For me, being.
18:16Your presence, your connection to yourself, and that which is
18:21greater than yourself, is far more important than what you do.
18:25But also, is the thing that fuels what you do.
18:29>> Right.
18:30>> And I know that one of the things that is so important for what happens here.
18:36At the graduate school, is that you have leaders who are self actualized,
18:43and understand what your contribution to change the world can be.
18:49You can only do that, if you know yourself.
18:52You can only do that, unless you take, unless
18:55you, you cannot do it unless you take the time.
18:58To actually know who you are, and why you are here.
19:03Now, I happen to know, for sure, that every human being comes, comes called.
19:09And that the calling goes beyond the definition of what your job is.
19:15That there is innate, there is an innate, supreme moment of destiny, for everybody.
19:23And, that's why when I was in Baltimore, I could feel, this isn't it.
19:26>> Mm-hm.
19:26>> This isn't it.
19:27And then in Chicago after 25 years of success
19:31on the show, I started to feel, this isn't
19:34it, there is something more, something more, something more
19:38that's calling me to what is the supreme moment.
19:42And everybody has that.
19:44And you cannot fulfill it, unless you have a level of self awareness, to be connected
19:52to what is the inner voice, or the
19:54instinct, I call it your emotional GPS system.
19:59That allows you to make the best decisions for yourself.
20:02And every decision, that has profited me.
20:06>> Mm-hm.
20:06>> Has come from me listening to that
20:08inner voice first, and every deci, every time
20:11I've gotten into a situation where I was
20:13in trouble, it's because I didn't listen to it.
20:16I overrode that voice, that instinct, with my own, with my own head, my own thinking.
20:22I tried to rationalize it, I tried to tell myself.
20:24But, you know, okay, you're gonna make a lot of money oh, no.
20:28And so, I am, I sit here you know, profitable,
20:33successful, by all the definitions of the world.
20:38But, what really, really, really resonates deeply with me.
20:43Is that I live, a fantastic life.
20:48My inner life is really intact.
20:51My, I live from the inside out.
20:53And so, everything that I have, I have because I let it be fueled by who I am.
21:00And what I realized my contributions to the planet could be.
21:04And what my real contribution is, it looks like I'm a, I was a talk show host.
21:08It looks like, you know, I'm in the movies.
21:10It looks like, you know, I have a network.
21:12But my real contribution, the reason why I'm
21:15here, is to help connect people to themselves.
21:19And the higher ideas of consciousness.
21:22I'm here to help raise consciousness.
21:24So my television platform, was to help raise consciousness.
21:28At the beginning I didn't realize that.
21:30I thought, oh my God, I got a show!
21:32[LAUGH] And it wasn't until I was interviewing the Ku Klux Klan one day.
21:40And, can you, imagine all the great lessons
21:42come from things that are, that are sometimes challenging.
21:46I was interviewing Ku Klux Klan, and I
21:48thought, as an African American oh, I'm gonna
21:51get them, I'm gonna show for every Jewish
21:54person, for every person who's been discriminated against.
21:58And during the commercial break, I saw the
22:02klan exchanging signals and looks at each other.
22:05And then something inside, that instinct, I thought, I am doing nobody any good.
22:11They are loving this.
22:13They are using me.
22:15I think I'm doing an interview.
22:16They are using me.
22:18I did not know it at the time.
22:20I brought them on, actually, those same guys back, in for my last year.
22:25And they told me, that they used that show, for their recruitment.
22:28I could feel that happening.
22:31And I made a decision after that show, I'll never do anything like that again.
22:35I'll never let my platform be used.
22:37>> Right.
22:38>> And I will not be used.
22:39And, at the time, in the 90s,
22:42early 90s, everybody was doing, confrontational television.
22:47And I thought I was above the fray, cuz I'm,
22:50cuz I'm not like like Jerry Springer, I don't do that.
22:53[LAUGH] So in my egoic delusion, I thought because I am not that bad.
22:59I'm really not bad.
23:01But I was doing confrontational television.
23:03I thought I was exposing, men with affairs.
23:07We happened to have a guy on who was
23:09talking about how he had an affair with his wife.
23:13And he was crazy enough to come on, with his wife, and his girlfriend.
23:17People ask me, why do people do that.
23:18It's because, nobody ever asked him so.
23:21[LAUGH] You say, would you come on with your wife and girlfriend?
23:24He goes sure >> [LAUGH] He was thinking.
23:29>> He was thinking.
23:30So, he comes on with the wife and the girlfriend.
23:32This is the life-changing moment for me.
23:34The Klan, and this woman.
23:36The wife is there.
23:37He's in the center, and the girlfriend.
23:39And he tells his wife, he announces.
23:41We were live television at the time.
23:43And he announced that, to, to, to the world
23:47and to his wife, that his girlfriend was pregnant.
23:52And I did, you see her face?
23:53Your mouth's open, right there.
23:54[LAUGH] I did exactly that.
23:57I went, oh my God!
23:58And you could hear the gasp in the audience.
24:00And, they're like, and, I literally really, it
24:03still makes my eyes water to think about it.
24:06I looked at her face, and I felt her humiliation.
24:10I felt her shame, I felt it, and I, said never again.
24:15[COUGH] I will get outta television, if I have to do this.
24:19And I went and I had a meeting with the producers, cuz
24:21I just had the Klan before, now I got the adulteress here.
24:24[LAUGH] And [LAUGH] some uplifting show, I must say.
24:28[LAUGH] And I said to the producers, we are gonna change.
24:32We're gonna turn this around.
24:34And I am no longer gonna be used by television.
24:38I am going to use television.
24:40What a concept!
24:41I am gonna use television, as a force for, for,
24:44I didn't say at the time for good, I said.
24:47You know, let's think about what we wanna say to the world.
24:49>> Yeah.
24:50>> And how we wanna use this as a platform, to speak to the world.
24:55How do we want to see the world change?
24:57How do we wanna impact to the world, and then let
25:00all of our shows really, be focused, and seated around that.
25:04I then said to the producers exactly what I said to you backstage.
25:07>> Mm-hm.
25:09>> Do not bring me a show, unless you have
25:12fully thought out what is your intention for doing it.
25:17Because, if there is, if, if, if there is a religion, or a mantra, or
25:21law that I live by, I live by the third law of motion in physics.
25:26Which is Stanford.
25:29Which is [LAUGH] for every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction.
25:35That is, that is, that is, that is my religion.
25:38I know that what I'm thinking, and therefore gonna act on, is going to
25:42come back to me, in this, in a, in a, in a circular motion.
25:47Just like gravity.
25:48Like what goes up comes down.
25:50And so, what also propels the action, is the intention.
25:56So, I don't do anything, without being fully clear, about why I intend to do it.
26:04Because the intention, is going to determine, the
26:07reaction, the result, or the consequence in every circumstance.
26:12I don't care what it is.
26:14So, I said to my producers, come to me
26:16with your intention, at whatever it is, whatever shows you're
26:19proposing, whatever ideas you're proposing, and then I will decide
26:23based upon the intention, do I really wanna do that?
26:26>> Right.
26:27>> Is his is how we wanna use this platform?
26:29And that really is the secret to why we were number one, all
26:32those years, is because it was an
26:34intention-fueled, intention-based coming out of purposeful programming.
26:39[CROSSTALK] Yeah, that's what it was.
26:40>> Great, and that's a perfect segue to go to our second section.
26:45Which I read this quote, and it just struck me
26:47as so true, and I wanted to delve into it.
26:50I've talked to nearly 30,000 people on this
26:53show, and all 30,000 had one thing in common.
26:57They all wanted validation, I will tell you that every
27:00single person, you will ever meet, shares that common desire.
27:05So, Oprah, you are a true renaissance woman.
27:08You know, you have your own network, you
27:10had this amazingly successful show for 25 years.
27:13You've been in movies.
27:14You are one of the most important philanthropists of our time.
27:17So, what are the qualities?
27:19>> I love hanging around you what else are you gonna say?
27:20[LAUGH] I'm just taking it all in.
27:23>> I love it too so we [CROSSTALK].
27:24>> You know, the part I love the most, is renaissance woman.
27:26When she said that, I went, what does that really mean?
27:28[LAUGH].
27:32>> I don't know but I like it.
27:33[LAUGH].
27:35>> I was a history major so it seemed like a natural.
27:37>> I'm a renaissance woman.
27:39[LAUGH] Who knew?
27:40Okay, go ahead.
27:41>> Good, I'm glad you like it [LAUGH] [COUGH] What are the
27:45qualities of your leadership that make you successful at such diverse pursuits?
27:51>> Mm.
27:51>> And what works for, in one area, that maybe doesn't work in another?
27:54[COUGH].
27:55>> Well, I tell you.
27:57it, it works in all areas because I, my life is fueled by my being.
28:02>> Yep.
28:05>> And the being fuels the doing, so, I come from a centered place.
28:10I come from a focus place, I come from compassion it's just,
28:16it's just my nature, I come from a willingness to understand.
28:21And to be understood.
28:23>> Right.
28:23And I come from wanting to, to, to connect.
28:27I mean, the secret of that show, for 25
28:30years, is that people could see themselves in me.
28:34All over the world.
28:36They could see themselves in me.
28:38And even as I became.
28:41More and more financially successful, which was a big surprise to me.
28:46I was like, oh my God!
28:47This is so exciting!
28:49[LAUGH]
28:50>> You mean, you got more than that 30,000?
28:51>> I got more than 30,000, by the time I was 30, so [LAUGH] so my.
28:58[LAUGH] But, what, what I realized is.
29:01Through the whole process, because I'm grounded, in my own self,
29:07that although I could have more shoes, my feet stayed on the ground.
29:13Although I was wearing better shoes, these are kinda cute today too.
29:16[LAUGH] So I could keep my feet on
29:18the ground, even though I could get more shoes.
29:21And I can understand.
29:22I could understand that it really was, because I was grounded.
29:25I've, I've done the, was doing, and continued
29:29to this day, to do the consciousness work.
29:33I work at staying awake.
29:35And being awakened, is just another word for spirituality, but
29:38spirituality throws people off, and they think you mean religion.
29:41When I was hiring people for my company, for own looking for presidents.
29:47When people would come in, I'd say, tell me what is your spiritual practice?
29:50And literally, would throw out, people would [UNKNOWN] well, I'm not religious.
29:54I said, I didn't ask you about your religion.
29:56I asked you what's your spiritual practice.
29:58What do you do, to take care of yourself?
30:01What do you do to keep yourself centered?
30:04What do you do to let, and, you know one women started crying.
30:07You know that's not the person.
30:09>> Okay.
30:11That's a sign.
30:11>> That's a sign.
30:13So, so to answer your question.
30:14>> Yeah.
30:15>> Everything is fueled that comes from me
30:18really wanting to be a better person on earth.
30:22>> And this is what I know to be true, the
30:25reason why the show worked is because I understood that that audience.
30:31My viewers, the people who watched us everyday,
30:35and would come, and just like you all did.
30:38Get tickets, and they would come with their,
30:41you just came across campus, but that's good, too.
30:45But people would come from all over the world, just to be
30:48there with their aunts, their mothers, and they'd come with their cousins.
30:53And there'd be a few men and they're going, What the hell [LAUGH].
30:56Or saying, Well, I went to Oprah with you, I went to Oprah.
31:00[LAUGH].
31:02At least get me clear for three or four weeks, I went to Oprah.
31:07I had such regard for that, and I just
31:10had a conversation with John Mackey who runs Whole Foods.
31:14And has written this fabulous book,
31:16you should get it, called Conscious Capitalism.
31:20Hm.
31:20>> And he was talking about how the
31:22investment in the stakeholders, the people you are serving.
31:27That connection between the people who you're trying to serve and sell
31:32to is equally as important as the people who you're buying from.
31:36>> Right.
31:36>> Equally as important as the people who are, you know, supporting you financially.
31:41As your stockholders if you were, you know, you know a public company.
31:44So, I always understood that there really
31:49was no difference between me and the audience.
31:50At times, I might have had better shoes.
31:53But at the core, the core of, of what really matters, that we are the same.
32:00You know how I know that?
32:01Cuz all of us are seeking the same thing.
32:04You're here at this fabulous school and will go out into the world.
32:09And each pursue, based upon what you believe your talents are, what your
32:14skills are, maybe your gifts are, but you're seeking the same thing.
32:20Everybody wants to fulfill the highest, truest
32:24expression of yourself as a human being.
32:29That's what you're looking for.
32:31The highest, truest expression of yourself as a human being.
32:36And because I understand that.
32:38I understand that if you're working in a bakery and that's where you want to be.
32:43And that may be the, that may be what you always wanted to do is to bake.
32:46>> Mh-hm.
32:46>> Pies for people, or to offer your gift.
32:50Then, then that's, that's for you.
32:52And there's no difference between you and me, except that's your platform.
32:56>> Mh-hm.
32:56>> That's your show everyday.
32:57So my understanding of that has allowed me to, you know.
33:02>> Reach everyone.
33:03>> To reach everyone.
33:04And, and there's no way that you wouldn't.
33:06Because that, that's what I truly feel.
33:09And when I sit down to talk to somebody, whether I'm talking to a murderer.
33:15I sat down and I interviewed a guy who, killed his twin daughters.
33:19I've interviewed child molesters.
33:21Trying to figure out what, what it is, what is,
33:23what it is they do and why they do it.
33:26Obviously lots of people who have been victimized through molestation.
33:30Presidents, politicians, Beyoncé herself [LAUGH].
33:36>> Ha Beyoncé.
33:38>> At the end of every interview the murderer to Beyoncé.
33:41The question
33:46everybody asks that you mentioned is, was that okay, how was that.
33:53Everybody says that and I, and I know just wait for it.
33:56Was that okay, was I okay, and when I finish I'll say to you, was I okay.
33:59>> I'm gonna ask you too.
34:01>> Okay.
34:01You're very okay.
34:01You're doing very okay, very okay.
34:02>> Whew!
34:02>> Very okay, so, what I started to feel, feel, sense,
34:03is that there's a common thread that runs through every interview.
34:08It doesn't matter what is, or what it is about, everybody wants to know.
34:16And this is the truth, all of your arguments are really about the same thing.
34:20It's about.
34:21Did you hear me?
34:23Did you see me?
34:25And did what I said mean anything to you?
34:28That's what everything's about.
34:30So the reason why I left my boss's office, when I was asking
34:36for a raise, I, I knew he didn't hear nor see me neither.
34:40And that I was not going to get the validation that I needed.
34:43Now I couldn't articulate that at the time, but
34:46I just knew let met get out of here.
34:47But now, I know, I can feel it inside of myself.
34:50I'm not going to get the validation that I'm looking for.
34:53I also know, that that's what every human being is looking for.
34:58They are looking to know, are you fully here with me.
35:02Are you fully here, or are you distracted?
35:05That's what your, that's what your children want to know, that's your, what
35:08the people you work for want to know, that's what you want to know.
35:11Is did, did, did you hear me?
35:13And every argument isn't about what you think your arguing about.
35:15It's really about, but can you hear me?
35:17>> Yes ma'am.
35:17>> And many people have even said it.
35:18>> Yes.
35:18>> Have you not said it?
35:19You're not hearing me.
35:21[LAUGH].
35:21>> Yes.
35:22>> You're not hearing me.
35:23So, having, having that understanding.
35:26And I would have to say that the show, one of the reasons why
35:32I live such a fantastic life, is because I pay attention.
35:37I pay attention to my life.
35:40And your life is your greatest teacher.
35:43Every single thing that's happening to you every day.
35:47Your, your joys, your, your, your sadnesses, your challenges, your worries,
35:52your, everything is happening to bring you closer to in here.
35:56Everything is trying to take you home to yourself.
36:00And when you're at home with yourself, when
36:03you're solidly there, connected to whatever you call creation.
36:07Even if you don't call it anything, connected to an energy force that is.
36:12That has unlimited power for you.
36:15You could connect to, to that.
36:17You, you, you are your best.
36:18My greatest, one of my greatest lessons came from a
36:21guy who wrote a book called Seed of the Soul.
36:23I was doing him on the show and I started talking this
36:25consciousness spiritual talk, you know, two months after I started the, the show.
36:30And my producers will all be like, oh God, there she goes again.
36:33But I knew that even though masses of people were not tuning in for that.
36:40That the whole purpose of that platform was to try to lift people up.
36:44And now, I have a network and I can articulate what it is I'm trying to do.
36:48I'm trying to bring little pieces of light into people's lives.
36:52Because what is my job?
36:54My job is not to be an interviewer.
36:56My job is not to be a talk show host or just to own a network.
37:00I am here to raise the level of consciousness, to connect people to ideas
37:06and stories, so that they can see themselves and live better lives.
37:11>> Thank you.
37:12I want to switch gears and focus a bit on philanthropy.
37:14>> Are you worried about getting all of your stuff in?
37:16>> no, we're doing great.
37:17We're just going to keep going.
37:19I think everyone likes this, right?
37:20We're good?
37:21[SOUND].
37:23>> Okay.
37:24>> So, I watched your interview with the Forbes conference on philanthropy.
37:30And you said something really interesting.
37:32Which is that early on some of your biggest
37:34mistakes in giving were because you made emotional decisions.
37:38>> Yeah.
37:38>> And yet we learn here at the GSB like,
37:41one of the crucial messages that we take away from us.
37:44Is that it is really important to be,
37:46as you said before, self aware, to be understanding.
37:50Often to share our emotions with others.
37:52You yourself have been the master of you know,
37:54harnessing vulnerability, with yourself and your guests over the years.
37:58So, how do you strike a balance between emotion and logic.
38:03How do you make sure that you're making logical decisions when you're giving.
38:07>> These are so well thought out.
38:10>> Thank you.
38:11>> Okay, let me think about that for a moment.
38:13[SOUND].
38:18Very good.
38:18>> Thank you.
38:20>> Okay.
38:24Well I would have to say, that, you need both.
38:31You need emotion and you need logic.
38:33So, in the beginning, I was purely emotional.
38:37Made a lot of mistakes.
38:39I happened to be sitting.
38:41I was sharing this story with Dean Saloner just before he came on.
38:49I was sitting in Nelson
38:53Mandela's living room.
38:54And I'm not just saying that to name drop.
38:58>> [LAUGH].
38:58>> I was actually sitting there.
39:01>> You stayed with him, right.
39:02>> I stayed with him for, stayed with him for ten days.
39:06And as I said to the dean [UNKNOWN] I could
39:08have, I literally could have written a book called 29 meals.
39:11Cuz I had 29 meals with him at that particular time.
39:14I wish I had.
39:15>> Yeah you should.
39:16>> I should've.
39:17>> You should do it now.
39:18>> [LAUGH].
39:20>> I didn't record it so some things I
39:22think was that the 2nd meal or the 12th meal.
39:24Anyway, so I was sitting in Nelson, sitting with Adiva and.
39:29We were talking about how, how do you really make an impact in the world.
39:35And we were reading the paper and we, I'd reached the point where
39:40I was no longer like, oh my God what am I gonna say.
39:43Cuz we were just sitting in silence reading the paper.
39:48And there was an article in the paper about, you know, some tragic situation.
39:53And we both started talking about the way to end poverty is through education.
39:59And I said to him, I really at some point would like to build a school over there.
40:03And then, he got up and called the minister to education,
40:05and said get over here now, Oprah wants to build a school.
40:07[LAUGH].
40:11And I was like well I was thinking about it.
40:13[LAUGH].
40:16I didn't say I wanted to do it today.
40:19[LAUGH].
40:20But so we literally started the process then.
40:24It was an emotional decision for me in that I think philanthropy
40:28should come out of you, your doing should come out of your being.
40:32Everybody knows my story as a poor negro child growing up in apartheid Mississippi.
40:37And if it were not for education and being born at the right time.
40:44Cuz I was literally born in the year of desegregation.
40:49Five years before, three years before, two years before, nobody would of
40:53even had the hope that my life could of been any different.
40:57So because I was born at that time, and literally moved out of
41:01Mississippi by the time I was in my first classroom.
41:04I was in Kindergarten.
41:05Wrote my kindergarten teacher a letter, Ms. New.
41:08I said, dear Ms. New, I do not belong here.
41:18>> Oh.
41:18>> Cuz I know a lot of big words.
41:21And then, I wrote every big word I knew.
41:23Elephant [LAUGH], hippopotamus, Mississippi, Nicodemus.
41:27Shadrackmeshackinthebindigo from the bible, so, and
41:29then Ms News says, who did this?
41:32I said, I did.
41:33So,they marched me off to the principals office, the only time I was ever in there.
41:42Principals
41:44office, principal made me write those words again and
41:46I got myself out of kindergarten, into first grade.
41:48>> Oh my god.
41:48>> First grade, skipped second grade, hellerher.
41:49[LAUGH].
41:49The Renaissance began.
41:50>> Yea.
41:52[LAUGH].
41:57>> Yes.
42:01Yea, yea.
42:03>> You've always had this conviction.
42:05You've always, it seems like you've always known who you are, even if you were.
42:09>> Well I knew I didn't belong there with those kids.
42:10>> You knew that.
42:11>> In kindergarten, you're sitting there, that's
42:12what I'm talking about listen to your instincts.
42:13You're looking around and say these kids [LAUGH]
42:19they are playing with some blocks [CROSSTALK].
42:24And I know Nicodemus [LAUGH].
42:27I do not think I belong in here, I do not belong in here so my point is,
42:33[LAUGH] my point is education really opened the door as we all know.
42:38I'm not gonna give you the education speech.
42:40How do you change a person's life.
42:42I had prior to starting my school in South Africa,
42:46I had this big idea that I was going to, emotional.
42:50That I was gonna take all, 100 families out of the projects, in Cabrini Green.
42:55And I was gonna give them a new life and I
42:58was gonna buy them homes and stuff and that did not work.
43:02It failed miserably.
43:04I had a Big Sister program that I started, failed miserably.
43:07So I realized that for me.
43:10First of all, I realize you don't change,
43:12as you all are recognizing through the seed program.
43:15You first have to change the way a person thinks and see themselves.
43:21So you've gotta to create a sense of aspiration, a sense of hopefulness so
43:26a person can see, can begin to even have a vision for a better life.
43:30And if you can't connect to that, then, then, then, then you, then you lose.
43:35You lose and they lose.
43:36And it's just money after money after money.
43:38So, for me it's using my philanthropy to do what I have found to be
43:44enormously, helpful.
43:51You know, the light in my life was education.
43:53So for me, in the beginning when I started to make
43:56money, especially when it's published, everybody and your brother calls you.
44:00And then you've got to make a decision.
44:02Am I going to do what everybody else wants me to do?
44:05Or, am I going to be led by who I really am?
44:08And I learned, as will happen to anybody who's successful in
44:11your family, people start treating you like the First National Bank.
44:16And, you've got to decide.
44:18You've got to draw the boundaries for yourself.
44:22And decide, how are you gonna use, your money, your talent, your
44:27time, in such a way that it's going to serve you first.
44:32Because if you, if it doesn't allow you to be filled up.
44:36Then you get depleted and you no longer, you can't keep doing it.
44:40So my decisions are now emotional and logical.
44:44Meaning I choose education, but I do it in such a
44:47way that's actually going to benefit the person that I'm serving.
44:51Then it's not just, oh I want to help people.
44:53>> Thank you.
44:55So to move on to our last part, you said at the end of your 25 years, gratitude
45:02is the single greatest treasure I will take with me from this experience.
45:08So now, you started your own network and you continue
45:11to be very involved in your philanthropy and your school.
45:15Is
45:21there anything left that you're scared to try?
45:23>> [LAUGH].
45:24>> Whoa, Amanda.
45:26You must have been up all night long.
45:29>> I've prepared a little bit.
45:31Just a little.
45:31>> Oh, my goodness.
45:32Anything left that I'm scared to try?
45:37no.
45:38[LAUGH] No, and I'm just trying to think what, I'm just
45:41trying to think, well, is there something that I haven't thought of.
45:46>> Well, there's not much you haven't done so.
45:49>> Well, but I stay in my lane.
45:51>> Yeah.
45:51>> I stay, I know where my lane is.
45:54I know what my lane is.
45:55I know that my real calling is what I said earlier.
45:59I know what it looks like to the rest of the world.
46:02Oh, she's a talk show celebrity but I really know what I'm here
46:05to do, which is the number one thing I would say to you.
46:08First let me answer your question.
46:10So no, there's nothing, I'm not scared to try?
46:14I haven't even, I had hit my stride but I haven't done what I ultimately came to do.
46:20There still is a supreme moment of destiny that awaits
46:22me and I also knew that during the Oprah Show.
46:25I've kept a journal since I was 15 years old.
46:28It's so pitiful when you go back and
46:29see how pathetic you were as a person, sometimes.
46:31[LAUGH].
46:32But I always knew even during that show, that the show, we live
46:36in a fame culture, we lived in a fame centered world, you know.
46:40Had this literally been during the
46:41Renaissance, people would have valued different things.
46:45We've been doing the Transcendentalist period, people valued
46:50different things but in our culture we value fame.
46:54So I always understood that that was the
46:57basis for me being known, in the world because
47:00people wouldn't be able to hear you, unless
47:03you came with some swag or swagger, you know?
47:07And I also understood that that was just the foundation
47:15to be heard but that there was a lot more to be said.
47:22So for me, owning a network or being a part of a network is
47:27about continuing to use that platform to raise the consciousness.
47:33I do a show on Sundays, which you can see live called Super Soul Sunday,
47:37where I literally talk to thought leaders
47:39from around the world and ask the questions.
47:41Not as good as you, I'm gonna consult with you.
47:43>> [LAUGH].
47:44>> Ask the questions in life that really matter to
47:47get people thinking about what really matters in their lives
47:50and the responses that I get from people, just regarding
47:52that show let me know that I'm on the right track.
47:55I'm moving in the right direction and so, I'm not afraid
48:00because I know that all of us have limited time here but the
48:05real question is who are you and what do you want to do with it?
48:10And how are you going to use who you are?
48:13My favorite line from Seed of the Soul is when the personality, comes
48:20to serve the energy of your soul, that is authentic empowerment.
48:28So as graduates of this great school, to take what
48:33you've learned here, to take what is a part of your
48:38nature and what you've developed as skills and
48:43what really feeds your passion, to take that and to
48:48align that with the deeper potential impossibility
48:54of your soul's coming.
48:57If you align your personality with what your soul
49:01came to do, and everybody has it, align your
49:04personality with your purpose and nobody can touch you
49:07and you wake up everyday and you are fired up.
49:10You're just like oh, my God, another day!
49:13It's so great!
49:14Because everybody has a purpose.
49:15So you're whole thing is to figure out what that is.
49:17Your real job is to figure out why you're really here and then
49:23get about the business of doing that.
49:25>> Okay.
49:25>> That's it.
49:26>> So we all know now what we have to do, right?
49:27Only wait.
49:27[LAUGH] >> Yeah.
49:28>> So Oprah, thank you so much.
49:30>> Are we gonna take some questions?
49:31>> Well, yeah, so that's what I wanted to say.
49:32I'd love to put it up.
49:33>> Everybody has a class at 1:15, right?
49:36Okay, I'll get you out of here.
49:37[Laugh] They told me hard out.
49:38One o'clock.
49:39Yeah.
49:39But so we think we have, do we
49:41have a first question from Twitter, coming forward?
49:45Throughout the session, the first question asked
49:51today was Matt Sucedo who asked, will you marry me?
49:58[LAUGH].
49:59>> Oh, it looks like he's up there.
50:02>> Matt, where's the ring?
50:04>> Matt, do
50:08we need marriage?
50:12Oh my god, that's gonna be such a pre-nup between us, I've gotta say.
50:21[LAUGH] >> What else you got, Andre?
50:24>> And then we had Javier Hernandez, who asked,
50:28Oprah who has been your favorite interviewee and why?
50:32>> Well, actually, I would have to say, there's so
50:34many over the years and the truth is that the
50:36people whose names that I can't even remember and you
50:39probably wouldn't remember, have been the most revelatory, the most impactful.
50:43I mean, watching people step out of tragedies
50:49and define triumph for themselves.
50:56Those people, really, have been the ones that really
50:58shaped me and made me a better human being.
51:01I did an interview once with a woman and actually with Doctor Phil, where
51:05she had come to the show and then was planning to kill herself afterwards she
51:09said because her daughter had been murdered
51:12eight years before and she couldn't get past
51:14it and she just wanted to come on the Oprah show and talk about it.
51:18And Phil said to her, why do you spend all your time lamenting, all
51:23these years lamenting the death, instead of celebrating the life?
51:29You've let the one day define your
51:31daughter's entire life and she looked up at
51:33him and she said you know, I never thought about it that way before with tears.
51:38I could feel that, the shift in her.
51:40So the most important moments for me have been
51:43when literally, I can see that somebody has made a
51:47shift in the way they see themselves in the world
51:50or you know, what we call now, an aha moment.
51:54Those, I live for that, those are my favorite
51:57interviews but most recently, I just last week interviewed Pharrell.
52:02Oh, my god.
52:05I was so happy.
52:06>> But you made him cry.
52:09I didn't make him cry.
52:10I didn't make him cry, Amanda.
52:12>> But he cried but it was happy tears.
52:14>> Yeah, I would have to say.
52:15I don't actually try to make people cry and if I think,
52:22literally, we cut a lot of it because he went into the ugly cry.
52:30[LAUGH] He went into the ugly cry.
52:31>> You could tell it was real.
52:32>> Yeah, it was very real and so we said, we gotta save the brother.
52:35The brother cannot walk out into the world with the ugly cry.
52:39It's okay to have a little sniffle sniffle but then just don't go [SOUND].
52:45But I could also feel him.
52:46I mean, I understand, you know why?
52:48Because I just loved him.
52:51I just loved him.
52:52Anybody who, and anybody who saw that interview if you liked him a little bit
52:56before, you really loved him afterwards because
52:59that's a person who's absolutely connected to here.
53:02>> And he, yeah, he knows his purpose.
53:03>> Yeah.
53:04>> Yeah, he does.
53:04>> Oh, he's very much connected to it and when he saw, he started crying when
53:09he saw the videos of people all over the world dancing to the happy song.
53:15>> There is a version made here too.
53:17>> Here?
53:17>> Yeah.
53:18>> You guys did one too?
53:19>> Yeah, I think some of the MBA ones right?
53:20Raise your hand if you are in it.
53:21>> Yeah!
53:22>> Didn't it make you happy to do it?
53:23Yeah, so he saw that video, like 30 seconds of video from people
53:26in all these different countries and the name of the countries were up.
53:31He just felt the emotion and the impact of using his life
53:34in such a way that you're able now to touch all of those
53:37people, which is really what we're all looking to do and all
53:41of us have the ability to do it, at whatever level you are.
53:44At whatever level, and I always say to people, oh, I have a big stage.
53:47Some people have a smaller stage.
53:49Some people have you know, what's your stage?
53:53We're going to take one from the audience now.
53:55>> Yeah.
53:55>> Let's do it.
53:56All right.
53:56Here we go.
53:57>> Introduce yourself.
53:59>> Hi, I'm Kirsten.
54:00I'm a second year MBA student here at the JSB.
54:03So this week at the JSB we're hosting something called Climate
54:07Week to raise awareness about climate change among the business students here.
54:13So you've interviewed people like Leo to Al
54:15Gore, President Obama on this really important issue.
54:17So I want to get a sense from you, how do you navigate raising the level of
54:23consciousness around issues like climate change that are important, but are
54:28also very complex and politicized?
54:33[LAUGH] We came prepared.
54:40We came prepared today, huh?
54:48Wow.
54:48>> I do not know the answer to that question.
54:51I do not know.
54:51[SOUND] If i knew that, we would have, I would have like, made it a club and we
54:58would have, I would have had every body come join my environmental club.
55:05Now, I don't know that is such a complex, beautiful
55:09question and the fact that you are even asking it or
55:12engaged in the process of trying to figure out the
55:15answer thrills me, cuz that's what would happen here at Stanford.
55:19So I really do not have an answer to that question.
55:23>> [LAUGH].
55:26>> Thank you.
55:27Thank you, do we have time for one more?
55:29>> You have to because you can't end on a question without an answer.
55:31>> We got one.
55:31>> I came here to get stumped, yeah.
55:32>> Hi Oprah, my name is Melissa and I wanted
55:34to know, how do you think about balancing selflessness with selfishness?
55:46Selflessness with selfishness.
55:50Why are you asking me that question?
55:53[LAUGH] It's kind of the tension between putting
55:58yourself first and also, taking care of others.
56:03Okay.
56:05Well, I would say this.
56:06There is no, you have no, well,
56:09everybody's heard the whole oxygen mask thing.
56:12The truth is, you don't have anything to give that you don't have.
56:19So you have to keep your own self full.
56:24That's your job.
56:26You know, one of my daughters is
56:27here today from Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy.
56:30Stand up Shenay, so everybody can see you.
56:32[SOUND] You're going to end your first year soon.
56:41Oh my god, it's your first year.
56:43I say to my girls all of the time, that you're
56:48real work is to figure out where your power
56:53base is and to work on the alignment of your
56:58personality, your gifts that you have to
57:03give with the real reason why you're here.
57:08That's the number one thing you have to do, is to work
57:12on yourself and to fill yourself up and keep your cup full.
57:18Keep yourself full.
57:18I used to be afraid of that.
57:24I used to be afraid, particularly, from people
57:26who'd say, oh, she's so full of herself.
57:28Mm, she's so full of herself and now, I embrace it.
57:29I consider it a compliment that I am full of myself because only when you're full.
57:37I'm full, I'm overflowing.
57:40My cup runneth over.
57:42I have so much.
57:44I have so much to offer and so much to
57:47give and I am not afraid of honoring myself, you know.
57:52It's miraculous when you think about it.
57:54First of all, for me, my father and mother never married.
57:57They had sex one time underneath an oak tree
58:00because she was wearing a poodle skirt in 1953.
58:03>> [LAUGH].
58:04>> And my dad to this day says, I wanna know what was under that skirt.
58:07That's what I wanna know.
58:08[LAUGH]
58:14He wanted to know what was under the skirt.
58:16They didn't really have a relationship.
58:18She wanted one but you know, he went under the skirt
58:22and that was it and one time, under the oak tree, bam.
58:26Renaissance.
58:27>> [LAUGH] >> Woman is born.
58:29>> That's why I know my life is bigger than that.
58:32My life has to be bigger, as your is, bigger than a moment, than a poodle skirt.
58:42It's much bigger.
58:44The design, the reason why I'm here is much bigger
58:46than oh, I think I wanna see what's under there.
58:48So the ability to take care of that, to honor that, to honor yourself and that
58:54which is greater than yourself, that which was the reason for your being here.
59:01There's no selflessness in that.
59:09Only through that do you have the ability to offer yourself, your whole
59:12self, your full expression of who you are, to the rest of the world.
59:16So I remember the very first time I had a life coach.They weren't called
59:21that at the time but an expert on who shared with our audience, the women.
59:26She did a list and say where are you on the list?
59:28And literally, in that audience, women booed her,
59:29when she said put yourself top of the list.
59:31This was in 1992.
59:34In 1992, the idea of being top of your own list, was people like, how dare she?
59:40She doesn't have children.
59:42I said, she didn't say abandon your children and go running in the streets.
59:46She just said, put yourself at the top of the list.
59:50Nurture yourself.
59:51Honor yourself.
59:52Stop the crazy mind chatter in your head that tells you all the time that
59:56you're not good enough because that's the
59:58number one, I've found too, issue with everybody.
60:02The reason people say, you know, how is that?
60:11How is that?
60:13>> It's cuz you wanna know how do you measure up.
60:16Well, to know that your just being here, your just being
60:18here, however that sperm, bam, hit that egg, however that occurred for
60:22you, that your being here is such a miraculous thing and
60:24that your real job is to honor that, is to honor that.
60:28And the sooner you figure that out, oh wow, wow, I'm one of the lucky ones.
60:32I got to be here.
60:34So how do you continue to prepare yourself to live out the highest,
60:40fullest, truest expression of yourself as a human being?
60:45I jst wanna end with this: there are no mistakes.
60:49There really aren't any, cuz you have a supreme destiny.
60:53When you're in your little mind, in
60:55your little personality mind or you're not centered,
60:57you really don't know who you are but you come from something greater and bigger.
61:01We really all are the same.
61:03You don't know that, you get all flustered, you get
61:06stressed all the time, wanting something to be what it isn't.
61:10There's a supreme moment of destiny calling on your life.
61:13Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know
61:16that and sometimes, when you're not listening, you get taken off track.
61:22You get in the wrong marriage, the wrong relationship, you take the wrong job.
61:28Yeah, but it's all leading to the same path.
61:33There are no wrong paths.
61:34There are none.
61:34There's no such thing as failure really, because failure is
61:37just that thing, trying to move you in another direction.
61:43So you get as much from your losses, as you do from
61:49your victory cuz the losses are there to wake you up.
61:56The losses are to say, fool, that is why
61:58you go to school, so that CBS can call you.
62:02So when you understand that you don't allow yourself to be completely thrown
62:07by a grade or by a circumstance because your life is bigger than
62:12any one experience and if I had, I always ask people on Super
62:16Soul Sunday to tell me, what would you say to your younger self?
62:21Every person says in one form or another, I would have said, relax.
62:30>> [COUGH] >> Relax.
62:31It's gonna be okay.
62:31It really is gonna be okay because even if you're on
62:35a detour right now and that's how you know, when you're
62:38not at ease with yourself, when you're feeling like [SOUND], that
62:42is the cue that you need to be moving in another direction.
62:45Don't let yourself get all thrown off, continue to be thrown off course.
62:50When you're feeling off course, that's the key.
62:53How do I turn around?
62:55So when everybody was talking about, when I started this network,
63:00if I had only known, good lord, how difficult it would be.
63:05The way through the challenge is to get still
63:08and ask yourself what is the next right move?
63:11Not think about oh, I got all of this to, what is
63:15the next right move and then from that space make the next
63:20right move and the next right move and not to be overwhelmed by
63:25it because you know your life is bigger than that one moment.
63:30You know you're not defined by what somebody
63:33says is a failure for you because failure is
63:36just there to point you in a different direction
63:39and that's all the time I got right now.
63:42>> Thank you.
63:42Yeah.
63:42>> Thank you.
63:42[applause] >> Good job!
63:44>> Thank you.
63:45>> Yeah!
63:45>> Thank you.
63:45>> Yeah!
63:45Good job!
63:46[applause] Yeah!
63:53Good job!
63:56Wow!
63:58[applause]


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0:01tonight on life class I remember writing in my journal that dreams continue to
0:06come true
0:07who would have thought in all of the years of the oprah show the jim carrey
0:12would be one of our greatest teachers
0:14I would visualize things coming to me ralph lauren is a perfect example of a
0:19person who believed set the vision then achieved it I felt like I had something
0:24to say and then get this
0:27I could not even believe it next after 4561 over shows
0:36the iconic moments
0:38unforgettable stories this is what I know we all
0:44want a better life
0:46we get
0:49this life class thank you so much for tuning in and for logging on an open dot
0:55com for a class i hope that you've had some interesting insights for yourself
1:01about yourself
1:02others to share with other people we're talking about understanding the power
1:07that's within every person and ways you lose power
1:12number one way with his power is through our ego
1:15yesterday we talked about letting go of the past and the anger that we're all
1:19holding many of us are holding that keeps us from moving forward and today I
1:25want to talk about belief
1:28what you believe about yourself what do you believe is true for you what do you
1:33believe is possible for you
1:35I many of you have heard me share the story of growing up
1:39rural Mississippi obviously a black girl at the time we were called colored
1:45people
1:46Negroes and my grandmother was made that's all she ever knew
1:50the only real expectation she held for me was that I would one day become a
1:55maid and in her words have some good white folks meaning people who would not
2:00speak negatively about me you would allow me to take food home who would be
2:06good to me would treat me with some level of dignity and respect that was my
2:12grandmother's dream for me but I had another dream for myself another more
2:18than a dream i had a belief for myself and i remember watching her
2:25hang out clothes on the line one day and say to me you have to watch me up Gail
2:30because one day you'll have to do this for yourself and knowing inside myself
2:34that that was not going to be my life
2:36don't know how I knew it other than that thing that we all have intuition or an
2:42instinct that said no this will not be my life but because I since that and was
2:49connected to that and I remember was a very still moment it was quiet and I was
2:55still and i was watching her i could see her right now with the clothes pins in
2:59her mouth and putting them on the line and seeing the breath because it was
3:03cold and moisture coming from her lips and I knew that that would not be my
3:08life i knew that i will not be hanging clothes on a line in a backyard in
3:13Mississippi so I was either four or five years old and that belief that that
3:20would not be my life is what I held onto for the longest of times I just
3:25no matter what I believe that there was something bigger
3:30greater more for me
3:36I had no idea that it would take the form that it has taken
3:45yeah
3:46that I would become on a person on television and that i would do all the
3:51things that I've done because obviously when I was growing up there was nobody
3:55like me on television
4:01yeah
4:04I just believe that there was something more and I was always cognizant of what
4:12that more was and what you will find is that at different times in your life
4:18the call will be different for some people they know from the time that they
4:23were you know old enough to speak
4:27what it is they wanted to do I didn't know that I had no idea for the longest
4:31time I was looking around me and trying to feel my way through what felt like
4:37the right thing but what I knew was that whatever that right thing was it wasn't
4:45going to be what everybody else told me it was and so I think that's true for
4:49not just people who become known
4:53or become famous I think it's true for everybody who decides for themselves
4:59that there is something more and I want to listen to what that is and be guided
5:04by that now
5:06many times people ask about what is my purpose how do I know what my purpose is
5:09how do I know what I'm supposed to do
5:11the only way to know what to do in life is to pay attention to the life that
5:16you're living right now
5:18you can't get it by listening to other people there is a wonderful Bible
5:22passage that says be still and know that I am God
5:26you can't allow the voices of the world to drown out that which i know is the
5:32voice of God the voice of your own consciousness the voice of the purest
5:37light of yourself because that is how the energy of God speaks to all of us
5:43and so knowing that number one
5:47you deserve and are worthy of the best that your creation has to offer
5:53and believing that there is a reason why you are here and understanding that your
6:00job is to figure out what that is and then follow that belief in life
6:06everybody around you as a teacher for you if you're in a bad relationship
6:09right now
6:11you are a student of how to have a better relationship if you're in a bad
6:16situation with your boss
6:18that is a teaching situation for you to learn how to get yourself a better boss
6:22who would have thought in all of the years of the oprah show the jim carrey
6:27would be one of our greatest teachers
6:31yeah
6:47okay okay obviously you know obviously you knew somewhere inside yourself that
6:52you were destined to be famous because i think it's really a marvelous thing that
6:56visualization thing you did you don't do i have read about this in here this that
7:00you used to go up on Mulholland Drive and every night and visualize seeing
7:03yourself is
7:04yeah i would visualize a yeah I was this room is smoking poor bright having
7:09directors interested in me and people that I respected saying you know I like
7:15your work or whatever that is and and I would visualize things coming to me that
7:21I won't want it or whatever
7:22this is in like nineteen eighty-seven years yeah I don't know I had nothing at
7:26that time so it was like it but it just made me feel better made me at that time
7:31all it really was for me was kind of making me feel better i would drive home
7:35and think well I do have these things and they're out there i just don't have
7:38a hold of him yet but they're out there
7:40ok so you would get this from what self-help books or whatever yeah
7:43self-help section self-help section they renamed the Jimmy very wing
7:47so did you write yourself a check I heard what you did is that true wrote
7:51myself a check for 10 million dollars for acting services rendered
7:56and i gave myself five years
7:59there are three years maybe and and I dated at Thanksgiving 1995 and I put it
8:06in my wallet my kept it there and deteriorated and deteriorated and stuff
8:09and and but then just before Thanksgiving 1995 I found out that I was
8:17gonna make 10 million dollars on think about it
8:20dumb and dumber and dumber yeah so you visualize yourself
8:27ocean works if you work hard yeah well yeah that's the thing
8:31visualize and you know go eat a sandwich
8:36i love that that was such a powerful moment for me because I was not a person
8:41who did visualization or thought about my belief system in such a practical way
8:49but I learned a lot from jim carrey on that show and he is absolutely correct
8:54if you get see it and believe it
8:58it is a lot easier to achieve it so thank you Jim for reminding us of that
9:03lesson and it doesn't mean that for every person that writes the
9:06ten-million-dollar check that that's going to happen for you because so many
9:10times people who do that process live in the space of wanting and resisting it
9:19instead of writing it
9:22visualizing it seeing it for yourself and then letting it go
9:26letting it go but moving in the direction of working toward it
9:31so nothing happens at first it's over the process of the time and the effort
9:37and the energy that you put into a thing that the energy comes out so that was a
9:43great lesson from Jim Jim thanks for that
9:48yeah
9:54next online class it was a rare interview the billionaire mam behind the
9:59harry potter Empire
10:00I love this one in fact I'd set out some of with not much self belief at all and
10:04getting this one thing in my life I believed author JK Rowling teaches us
10:10all to believe
10:20this is what I know you don't become what you want and most times in life you
10:24don't even you don't get what you want and I will have to set that for me
10:31colored girl Negro child growing up in Mississippi that one of the greatest
10:37gifts i was ever afforded was not to have been put in a segregated school
10:42system had been put in a segregated school and taught in a segregated school
10:47system that said you are less than because you're a woman and you're less
10:51than because you're a colored woman i probably wouldn't be here today
10:56I would have had to then overcome that belief that conditioning of a belief but
11:02because I was raised by my grandmother who raised me in the church and
11:11I went to church Sunday School lived in the church and I would sit there
11:19second view
11:21on the right
11:24third row
11:26every Sunday
11:28just taking it all in and I would listen to the stories
11:32listen to the Bible stories and I would hear that through God all things are
11:37possible
11:38I would hear the story of Jesus talking about
11:42if you have the faith of a mustard seed and you know as many years later that I
11:47actually saw a mustard seed
11:50I could not believe what a mustard seed actually look like you've ever seen a
11:54mustard see here I have some here
11:56I want to pull one out jesus said if you had the faith of a mustard seed you can
12:02move mountains and anything was possible
12:06now I heard this is a kid and I really believed it and so the question is what
12:10do you believe do you believe that you are worthy of happiness
12:18do you believe that happiness success abundance comfort fulfillment peace joy
12:27love is a part of your birthright
12:31is that what you believe or do you believe something else because you will
12:35manifest the life that you believe I've always known that no matter what
12:42my belief is I'm going to be all right
12:46why because i have that faith of a mustard seed is actually a few mustard
12:49seeds and I think the people who are most successful and are able to handle
12:57that success in such a way that it fulfills them and doesn't overcome or
13:03overwhelm them are the people who understand that belief
13:07JK Rowling is one of those people we've been trying to get JK Rowling to do an
13:11interview for years since the beginning of harry potter and it was one that I've
13:16always wanted because although she's a writer and I talk for a living
13:21I
13:21a instinctively felt that we shared a lot in common because harry potter
13:27became a phenomenon as did the oprah winfrey show become a phenomenon in the
13:33culture and they're not many people you can share the concept of being
13:41phenomenon with and what that means and what that means for your own life and
13:45how it changes the way you think about your own life but yet your own life is
13:50so very personal so I really wanted to have a conversation with her because I
13:56could see myself
13:58mirrored in her success the JK Rowling legend begins with a delightful
14:04children's book about an orphan boy wizard with a lightning-shaped scar a
14:09boy with a magical destiny a destiny shared by his creator JK Rowling is the
14:16first self-made billionaire author in history
14:20selling more than 400 million books captivating readers in 69 languages and
14:30200 countries around the world
14:34Harry's final chapter the deathly hallows is the fastest selling book of
14:39all time
14:41so I wanted to talk to her so much I flew all the way to Scotland to sit in
14:46the hotel where she completed
14:48harry potter and found that she was feeling some of the same things I was
14:52feeling that she was bringing harry potter to an end
14:55she was feeling some of the same things I was feeling as I was bringing the
14:58oprah winfrey show to an end
15:01so this is the first time we've Mac yes it is in the United States you're known
15:07as the first billionaire author
15:10yeah yeah so how has being the first billionaire author affected your
15:17perception of yourself
15:20I dress better oh I think the bigger the single biggest thing that money gave me
15:26and obviously I came from a place where i was with I was a single mother and
15:34what it really was hand to mouth at one point it was it was as literally as poor
15:39as you can get in Britain without being homeless
15:41at one point if you've ever been there
15:44you will never ever take for granted that you don't need to worry
15:48you know I've heard the legend is that it just the story just entered your head
15:53while I'm doing it again
15:55that's true that is true i had been right all i ever wanted to do
15:58from as from the age of which you understand that books are written they
16:02don't you spontaneously grow up out of the ground which was about six
16:06yeah five or six that's all I ever wanted to be was a writer
16:10yeah i wrote compulsively all through my late teens into my twenties and but I've
16:14never really found the right thing you know and then I was on a train i was 25
16:18and it came and what came was boy doesn't know is it is always a ghost
16:24Wizarding school
16:24bang bang bang and then that was it and that was like touch paper and I was on
16:28this delayed train going from manchester to London and my head was just flooding
16:34with what's at this wizard school there are four houses there are ghosts their
16:37house ghost
16:38what do they teach what subjects to learn who are the teachers and I i had
16:41no pen
16:42and but that was it that was it out and I had I don't think I'd ever felt so
16:48excited
16:49isn't it interesting that in the first book When Harry is being dropped off at
16:56his uncle's it is predicted
17:00one shot one day every child in the world will know his name one day every
17:04child in the world now
17:06his name was the screen did you know
17:11knows you're part of you to come on Charlie I mean yeah I i remember once
17:17and it was like it was like well like i'm going to call it clash but a flash
17:22of clairvoyance now obviously if I hadn't come true I would just be around
17:25crazy for that you had it was like another voice speaking to me in the
17:28voice said the difficult things going to be to get published
17:31if it's published it will be huge Wow
17:35and that is exactly what it was so there was some hint that the voice had said to
17:41you all the things you've got to believe haven't you yes you know i was i was not
17:45the world's most secure person I wasn't someone with an enormous amount of in
17:51fact I'd say I was someone with not much self belief at all and yet this one
17:54thing in my life I believed that was the one thing in my life I felt I can tell a
17:59story
18:00the most exciting thing to me about her is that she never gave up on herself
18:05that manuscript was turned down by many many many many people but she wouldn't
18:10stop believing this is what I know for sure
18:13had I not been on television and I were working in a shoe store
18:20someplace i do believe that I would be the person who would be selling the most
18:27shoes and I would be selling the most shoes because people would like to come
18:31around and have the conversations that we would be having as they tried on the
18:35shoes so I never imagined that what I would be doing would be sitting on
18:42television talking to you all but the nature of my personality and the nature
18:47of my belief was that whatever I would be doing
18:50I would find a way to be really good at it and excel at it
18:55that is what i believed about myself so
18:59JK Rowling had some of that same stuff
19:02she was a writer and she knew she was a writer and what writers do is right they
19:10write whether 15 people are 15 million people are reading it
19:16if that is what you believe you were born to do you do it you find a way to
19:22allow the truth of yourself to express itself because that's what we're all
19:26looking for
19:28we're all looking for the highest fullest expression of ourselves as human
19:33beings and unless you're doing that unless you're finding away for what you
19:38believe to be true about yourself to express and manifest itself in the world
19:44you are not living your fullest life
19:50yeah
19:55coming up today in order because i have these shoes and it's hard and I didn't
19:59want the top so i cut my pantyhose on the right thing
20:02life often speaks to us and signs and it was that moment 12 years ago that gave
20:07one fewer the biggest idea of her life
20:10find out what's happened since
20:23this is what everybody needs to know about becoming what you believe the
20:27believe cannot come from your ego self because there are a lot of people who
20:32have ideas about themselves or even beliefs about themselves that have been
20:39formed by other people's definition of what is right for you by society's
20:45definition of what you should become but there is a heart calling on everybody
20:50there's a heart calling for you
20:53that's only yours and that can only be expressed through what you have to offer
21:00the planet and that takes many many many many forms
21:05lots of people think they need to come up with a big great idea for some people
21:09it's something that's really practical you know for many years
21:12I warp any hoes and was not cheap because I wouldn't say I'm cheap
21:18here's what I used to do when you want to wear sandals everybody knows this
21:22except my housekeeper paulina that you do not wear any clothes with your
21:27sandals
21:28she's a damn on yesterday I like believe everybody else in the world has gotten
21:33that message
21:34so you still need the support but you then have to cut off this is what we
21:39used to do you cut off the panty hose so that the pantyhose would stop about here
21:44or they stop right here and then you still have your bare feet bare leg for
21:49your sandals
21:51I was telling that story on the air one day like today in order because i have
21:55these shoes and it's hard and I didn't want the top so i cut my pantyhose in
21:58there right there and Sara Blakely apparently was looking for a sign as to
22:05whether she should continue her belief that she was supposed to start a
22:09business and that was her sign
22:13spank started as a simple idea when 27 year old
22:16Sara Blakely cut the feed off of her own pantyhose
22:19they made me look a size smaller smooth everything out and got rid of the panty
22:23line and i thought this should exist for women but her body shaping solution
22:27wasn't an instant hit
22:29I remember verbally saying I'm asking for a sign
22:32I'd flipped on the end of Oprah and that day
22:36Oprah had told the world that she had been cutting the feet of her pantyhose
22:40for years at that moment Sarah cleaned out her five thousand dollars savings
22:44account and went for it and went to craft stores and found little bands and
22:49things that I thought could maybe go on the end of it is researched yarns the
22:53hosiery mill help me there are thousands of yards to choose from and we went
22:56through hundreds of prototypes before we came up with the original spanks
23:00after two years banks were born and women never wear their clothes the same
23:04again
23:05wow this is our first time meeting so how are things going
23:10I'm so right i gave you the idea yeah you listen okay i was trying for years
23:16to get this idea made cold calling all the hosts emails talking to men
23:21nobody thought it was a good idea i let go of it I asked for a sign
23:24flip on your show you're my sign which means I'm going for it and I then got it
23:30made
23:31it took me another additional year to get it made and i started it with the
23:35five thousand dollars
23:36thanks now is we have over a hundred products
23:39I've done I mean I have to pinch myself but we've done over a hundred million
23:43dollars in retail sales
23:44oh my and listen / Sony 15 minutes
23:47yeah
23:53amazing amazing i mean these are all the men that I was cold calling so this
23:57isn't a good idea i don't get it and it just has taken off I believed in it
24:02you but you you were such an artist that is the truth I mean for years
24:06I don't did you ever do that for years I would cut off that you would have a run
24:10and then you cut off that leg and then you would save that save the other half
24:15sometimes you have two halves on Yeah Yeah right
24:18but the journey has been amazing and you I feel like you've been present almost
24:22the whole journey so I'm thrilled to meet you i'm thrilled to meet years
24:24women really so happy there
24:29yeah
24:31women in our audience and lots of women who are watching for whom you will be a
24:35huge inspiration because somebody has an idea
24:38you think it's a great idea everybody else may not think it's such a good idea
24:43five thousand turn $5,000 turn into one hundred million dollars in sales
24:49you are an inspiration Sarah thank you and you know what
25:03I've had a few different jobs in my life I was an accountant and also a car
25:09salesman but I always had a feeling that there was something else may be in store
25:14for me that I probably wouldn't be a car salesman all my life being aware there's
25:20a purpose that I haven't yet discovered allowed me to really keep my eyes open
25:25and i can recall very clearly
25:29one day in particular when I just happened to flip on and see old brown
25:32featuring a story about Sara Blakely Oprah really talked and hit on how if
25:40you just don't give up and believe in yourself you can accomplish anything and
25:45I had this epiphany all the sudden like I literally jumped off the couch
25:50I ran to my room and I grabbed a little thing that I had created for myself
25:54- smooth my stomach to keep my will rise pants in place and never had crossed my
25:59mind before this could be something that other women might want or could benefit
26:03from i made my first product at my kitchen table using my grandmas sewing
26:07machine
26:08ass board president day it's a whole company called Chi company and we're
26:14shaping women all over the United States watching my dream unfold
26:18is it just me
26:20beyond anything I could imagine I
26:24very excited to have the opportunity to experience firsthand how believing in
26:29yourself can change your whole world
26:33coming up on life class one of my favorite interviews from our farewell
26:36season
26:37so this all started with a tie ralph lauren dreamed it believed it and will
26:42motivate you not to sell your own self short
26:52ralph lauren has defined lifestyle for the American Way of life
26:57I used to dream about going to Ralph Lauren Ranch because I would pass that
27:01ranch every time I went to my home in telluride and look at that fence line
27:08seven miles of four poster fence not three four post people and wonder what
27:15would it be like to live there and to be a part of that whole experience and this
27:21past year I was allowed behind the fence to do that
27:25wow I hey how are you
27:28wow we I can't believe I made it how i doing good to see you good to see you
27:35he seemed good to see you
27:38I can't imagine how how long I have dreamed of coming here this is well we
27:46got it is an absolute dream come true to finally see this magnificent place and
27:52my host mr. ralph lauren himself shows what he calls his other horse a vintage
27:581948 jeep for my guided tour of a double RL ranch the weather
28:08I love everything about this and I can't even explain to you what this means
28:11here the beauty and breadth of this landscape leave me speechless now says
28:17he felt the same way when he first bought the ranch back in nineteen
28:21eighty-two so this all started with that I was a lot of people think it started
28:26with the polo shirt but it started with the time it started way back I i felt i
28:31had something to say there were no fashion design is when I was growing up
28:35for the idea of fashion and what fashion has become today was very different
28:41i was working i was working at a job and I wasn't sure how I was going to be and
28:46I what was the job was to hang up but returns in a department store when I was
28:5316 years old when i was still going to high school and along the way I sort of
28:58felt that I had something to say that with me
29:01and and no one believed course i want i went to my boss and I said look I'd like
29:07to design these times because i think they could be new
29:10he said the world isn't ready for Ralph Lauren wow I've never forgot that
29:15because even when he said that the world is ready for you i thought that was a
29:18compliment
29:19yes so what happens l came along and said Ralph would you like to come with
29:23me and i said i'd i would i'd like to start my own division called the polo
29:29and they gave me a draw in the Empire statement not an office but a draw
29:35I just don't like on the bottom of the draw and everyone in the office but
29:39who's this little kid working out of the draw and i took the samples made these
29:44white eyes and
29:47deliver them myself Obama jacket and jeans and that's how it went
29:52why'd you call paula y yeah because polo I felt like I couldn't call it
29:56basketball
29:58I like sports and I felt the Polo represented sort of an international
30:04sport
30:05it was a little more sophisticated wow he is a perfect example of a person who
30:11believed set the vision and then achieved it and didn't give up on his
30:19belief even when he had the opportunity to sell himself out
30:24he did not I guess inside I always felt I was had something i started with that
30:29I company
30:30Bloomingdale's or the ties and said we really want to buy him Ralph but we'd
30:34like to narrow them a little bit and we'd like to take the name of and we
30:39want to call it our bloomingdale's
30:40hmm
30:41and I said I'm bloomingdale's was the hottest or
30:45so I said I know what the expression i use but I said I'm not doing there
30:51I'd love to sell bloomingdales Thank You Great Depression was kind of like hell
30:54to the naw right number was my heart was in my throat my throat was in my heart I
31:00said so you turned bloomingdale said i'm closing my bag and I'm not going to tell
31:05you I really would like to I think you could use these times and closing the
31:09bag i left six months later they called me back and said we can't find anything
31:13like yours
31:14they put a rack of my ties it was 26 years old and then one day I came back
31:20and I saw another racket eyes that look like mine
31:25and I said oh no this is the end they copied me
31:29and where am I going to go from here and one of the guys that worked in the
31:34company and fluids came over and he said well they're not the same as yours
31:39I said you know what the difference is between your ties and the ones that are
31:43on the rack next to their love
31:47my love is not about love but love with the passion and the King you that i love
31:53what I did
31:54we had a passion for it I had a passion and so it's a great lesson from that for
31:58me is once you know what you believe
32:02hold on to that belief and not allow yourself to be compromised in any way
32:06his bloomingdale's experience
32:09I mean we would not know who Ralph Lauren was if he'd given up his name to
32:13bloomingdales at the time and I remember early in my career I was asked to change
32:18my name and was told that nobody would ever remember
32:22Oprah but that Susie was a friendly your name and up into that . i never really
32:27liked my name because nobody had a name like mine and I wanted to be like
32:32everybody else but the bigger lesson for me
32:34the holding on to to to to change not changing my name that lesson showed up
32:41again as i was taking over ownership of the oprah winfrey show and holding on to
32:48the principles of what i wanted and expected for myself as ownership of the
32:55oprah winfrey show because I understood my value to myself and was willing to
33:02take the risk it be a part of the risk i would have to say it's always wonderful
33:06being underestimated because I would be sitting here today if the partners at
33:11the time believed as I believed and what it could be
33:16so hold on to your beliefs coming up
33:20what inspires you when you have already had
33:25achieve such great levels of success
33:29let me just tell you it's one thing to
33:37it's one thing to have a dream about being someplace and then have that show
33:43up i don't know if that ever happened to you but it has happened to me a lot and
33:48I have those experiences a lot where I wonder does this happen to everybody
33:53where you dream of a thing and then now it's right before you it is happening
33:59I'm telling you the whole time I'm sitting there on the porch with Ralph I
34:03was like my posture was a little straighter because i could not believe
34:07that we're sitting on this porch
34:09I hear the stream running by we're on the Ralph Lauren cushions on the Ralph
34:15Lauren porch on the Ralph Lauren Ranch with ralph lauren looking just like
34:20Ralph Lauren
34:21it was unbelievable to me I was like this is actually happening
34:26where did the idea for the polo shirt come from you know when I used to drive
34:30by in count the miles of your for post fence
34:34I used to think that's a lot of polo shirts no you know the polo shirt
34:39doesn't define who I am
34:41the shirt is a symbol of the brand people love the brand they like the
34:44horses they like the colors they love the quality and and it's been amazing
34:49things
34:50so it's great that they're out there and I'm thrilled and they continue and I
34:54think the question is how do you keep that going
34:56yeah that is the question the other question is what inspires you
35:01when you have already had achieved such great levels of success
35:06you pray
35:09I love working I love the excitement I like teams
35:12I like the challenge of doing something hasn't been done
35:15I have a wife I have kids I knew they needed things I knew they weren't in the
35:20stores and so all these things were inspiring the world around me is
35:24inspired what is so wonderful
35:25I think I mean I think the thing that is impressive is that what you've created
35:29is not just clothes or i think back in the eighties we started rough learn home
35:35but the ideal of what it can be
35:38it's it's the ideal and so when I by a Ralph Lauren cow which is what i did
35:44when if there's got money right but I went from little ratty towels to one of
35:49my first big purchases were ralph lauren bath sheets and i thought now i have
35:55made it and it wasn't as much about you know the the the towel as it was the
36:01ideal of what i thought that well i was i was the same guy
36:04because I'm i am the same person i went into stores and I couldn't find those
36:09towels this is what I think these times bigger luxurious help make these
36:12everything has been experienced
36:15and an opportunity to do things where are you most yourself and winter you
36:20must yourself
36:22I'm always myself
36:24that's great but like sitting here on the porch right now in in your dude
36:29stuff your heart of me
36:30it's a part of you I'm not a cowboy all the time I don't propose to be a cowboy
36:35you know but i love the West I love ranching
36:39I love the idea of it is it by creating absolutely little movies way I work is I
36:45feel like I move doing moves everything I do
36:47if you said just design that dress for that girl design
36:51i I couldn't do it but if you say she lives in a mansion where she lives
36:58in soho and she's an artist i can design exactly how she should look how it
37:03should be what she should be wearing and I create a world
37:07and I picture up on the wall and I said now I know what you need to tell stories
37:11right
37:12yeah
37:13and then get this Ralph asked if i wanted to spin the night and I did I
37:20could not even believe it
37:23believe me i was in my little Ralph Lauren cabin and when everybody left
37:30I pull back to see if they were really Ralph Lauren sheets they were they were
37:34i was in Robb Lord Gavin on Ralph Lauren Ranch and I remember writing in my
37:41journal that dreams continue to come true if you believe that was an
37:47out-of-body experience for me
37:49I hope you'll sign in for like class right now on facebook or overcame every
37:56day there will be new assignments and questions also see what your fellow
37:59students are posting on our life glass wall its life class interactive right
38:04now and oprah.com
38:11so as we're moving forward evolving in our humanity in our consciousness
38:15evolving into becoming the fullest expression of who you were meant to be
38:21it's really important to know what it is you believe about yourself
38:31I want you to go to open . com right now and look at some of the thoughts that we
38:36have for you to get you thinking more deeply about this because many of you as
38:43i have been as I am are where you are in your life based upon what you believe
38:49and it's not just what you think you believe on the surface it's also your
38:54shadow beliefs that are holding you back from moving into the life that you
38:59believe you deserve what i know is if you're not looking at the shadows if
39:05you're not looking at what is subconsciously running through the tape
39:09in your mind telling yourself you're not good enough you're not worthy enough
39:13you're not smart enough
39:15you're not enough which is a tape that's playing for a lot of people if you're
39:20not conscious of that then you end up acting out of that belief system and not
39:26out of what you know to be the truest or want to be the choice for yourself but
39:32you don't become what you want because so much of wanting is about living in
39:37the space of what you don't have
39:39that's why Jim Carrey's story is so powerful because he started to act as
39:45though he already had it
39:46he would go up to Mulholland Drive he would drive away singh thinking I
39:50already have those things I just haven't access them as yet I believe those
39:55things are going to come to me i'm going to act like they are so i'm going to
39:59move forward in my life in order to draw that to myself in such a way that my
40:04actions are in alignment with what what i say i believe so if you start to think
40:10about that
40:11really why are you where you are in your life
40:14the choices that you have made have been because of what you believe to be true
40:19for yourself
40:20when you begin to open up yourself to the real world and understand it's a big
40:26huge universe that the reason you are here is for the contribution that you
40:31have to offer and your real job is to figure that out
40:36now go to overcame we have a lot of really interesting examples of how you
40:42can begin to excavate and unleash what it is you really believe and if
40:49necessary change it
40:54yeah
40:57yeah
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